Author and Healing Medium Annemiek Douw shows how the decisions you make can subconsciously be influenced by previous experiences from another era.
It’s called love at first sight. Sometimes you meet someone and instantly feel a click, a connection. Without being able to express why, you just know: I really like this person. And often it results in a relationship, a friendship or at least in a fling.
The opposite can also be the case: you may dislike a person immediately without any rational reason. You just don’t like him. And because you feel something negative towards him, your mind starts to collect arguments to support that. So if you look for something negative you will find it, just as had you been looking for something positive you would find that too. Your mind easily selects all the information that supports your first impression and decides what will come in handy and what to pay attention to.
So why do you love one person instantaneously and almost hate the other? Often the reason is from the Past. Or should that be the “Past Past”?
When a soul decides to incarnate on planet Earth, he usually doesn’t do it for the first time, for you can only come to earth for the first time once. So most souls are reincarnated.
When a soul is reincarnated it means that he has lived before: he has loved before, has worked, had children, lost loved ones, fought in wars, betrayed friends, cooked dinner, made the bed. All kinds of life experiences are part of his history. They’re stored well so he normally doesn’t remember them, but still they are in his ‘energetic DNA’. It’s the basis of his next life.
So when a soul comes to Earth and meets other souls with whom he had bad experiences in an earlier life, something might resonate. Resonate in an ugly way.
Part of your energetic DNA can start to rumble. Like your stomach sometimes tells you that you’re in danger, your energetic inheritance will also let itself be heard, giving you an unpleasant feeling somewhere in your body.
If your new colleague has split your head in two using a large axe in another life when you were both knights fighting each other, then it’s no wonder you don’t like him at first. Your body may tell you that you can’t trust him. He’s dangerous. And so he was, back then.
But the soul doesn’t keep a time line. It doesn’t register when something happened. It just experiences things and stores the newly gained consciousness and therefore it can’t distinguish between what was then and what is now. Its energetic DNA reacts solely to a trigger that you notice in your body, without knowing that it’s an old warning. That it’s out of date.
Love at first sight
On the other hand, if your new colleague was the love of your life in a Past Life, old emotions can be stirred up there too. Then, you might feel like leaving the partner you have been with for years and starting a new life with this wonderful creature you apparently just met. Some people do and I don’t blame them. If you feel that strongly about someone, perhaps you should just follow your heart. But are you sure it is your heart you are following, or could it be the heart you used to have….?
Action speaks louder than memories
What is the smart thing to do then? Following your heart, reacting instantly without asking yourself why? Or using your head and trying to find out what is happening? Normally people don’t come with a manual, so you have to find out for yourself what he or she does or doesn’t mean to you.
As a rule of thumb: try to stay in the now. Find out what the other person’s behaviour and decisions do to you and check whether it brings you something good or merely costs you energy. And then decide what you really need.
When someone treats you badly, don’t try to guess where you could have met before. For it doesn’t matter which lives you lived before the ones you are living now, nor does it matter what plans you both made before you incarnated this time around, it only matters what you do and how you live your life in this life, now. If you focus on Past Lives in a bad relationship, you might find yourself explaining why you should put up with bad behaviour and then you will get trapped.
I think it’s clear by now: I don’t believe in love at first sight anymore, although I’ve experienced it myself. I have loved men so deeply my heart almost couldn’t cope and I couldn’t understand why they didn’t love me back! I had enough love for the both of us, so why didn’t it work?
But of course it didn’t: years ago I loved a guy who used to be my lover, 7 lives ago. Nevertheless this time he really didn’t like me. To him I was just an annoying young woman. And while I was focussing on the love we already shared in a previous life where we loved each other a lot, he resonated with another shared life in which it didn’t end so well. To him I was bad news. Yesterday’s news.
So you sometimes share more than one life, and then it may vary: depending on the information that stayed in your system, you resonate either positively or negatively.
Consequently I don’t believe in love at first sight anymore. It’s hardly ever at first sight, so I simply believe in love. And in Recognition at first sight.
Meeting the grandparent?
Speaking of love: an acquaintance of mine has a daughter, who used to be her grandmother. Yes, that’s possible. It doesn’t happen very often, but it can.
The grandmother came back to earth and became the daughter of her former granddaughter. So in a way she was her own great granddaughter?!
The grandmother was, when she was still alive, a rather unpleasant person. She and her husband collaborated with the enemy during World War II. Furthermore her husband abused several of his grandchildren and she let him. She looked the other way. Needless to say, the granddaughter – my friend – didn’t particularly like her Granny.
Then, when my friend’s daughter was born and she held her in her arms for the first time, she recognized the soul of her newborn. It was ‘Granny’! ‘So there you are again’ she said ‘the tables are turned now’. Luckily she was able to love her child without holding it against her, realizing that it wasn’t the same person. Just the same soul.
But her daughter grew up having a bit of a temper and wasn’t such a nice girl. She was angry, aggressive and smart, and on top of that she was a member of the same family again. But now her role was completely different. She had to adapt and she could no longer force her will onto others. It took almost 8 years before she stopped trying to manipulate other people and could handle the world from her new perspective. Before that she remained “Granny-like” and had the same nasty habits. Later, she became the lovely girl she is now, living in the Present.
To heal or not to heal?
Of course cases like this don’t happen very often. Most of the time you incarnate in a different family than before. But very often you do meet people (souls) with whom you’ve had a history. Sometimes you meet them with the purpose to heal something in the relationship and move to the next level. Then there’s a plan behind it about which I will write in future. And sometimes you just meet them and don’t have to do any homework, because you don’t need healing at all.
React or read?
So now I am curious: How did your relationship start? Was it love at first sight? Or wasn’t it? Please let me know. I am looking forward to reading your responses.
And if you’re interested in Previous Lives or would you like to read more about past entanglements between souls? My new book 21 Layers of the Soul: Healing the Karmic Ties with Friends, Lovers, Family and Enemies contains loads of real life cases, which had their origin in Previous Times. 21 Layers of the Soul is out now. Alternatively, the Dutch version is available here.
ANNEMIEK DOUW, MSc is a management coach, energetic therapist, lightworker, medium, trainer and author. Coming from an unlikely background in engineering, Annemiek has always been interested in how people think and grow at a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. In her work within the government and business sectors, she began to see how illness comes into people’s lives, often making it unpredictable and seemingly out of control. This influenced her to start exploring bioenergetics and other alternative therapies, eventually leading her to complete a 3-year course at the Natural Medicine Academy South-Netherlands to become a paranormal therapist. In 1998 she dedicated herself to this work full-time. She later fell ill herself for an extended period of time, which allowed her to gain first-hand insight into the human experience of illness, and to learn how the soul is an internal compass that continuously guides. Probing more deeply into how this compass works, Annemiek discovered 21 layers of the soul that influence our ability to grow and to heal in our bodies, minds and relationships. This discovery became the foundation of her unique healing style, and today Annemiek helps clients heal at many levels, and teaches them how to read this compass for themselves. Wanting to share this unprecedented work with a wider audience, she published the Dutch language book De ziel in het licht van haar hogere auralagen in 2011. The English translation of this book is coming in autumn 2013, under the title 21 Layers of the Soul: Healing the Karmic Ties with Friends, Lovers, Family and Enemies.