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Why Judgements Hurt, Part Three – How to Heal the Wounds

Without Judgement

Author and healing medium Annemiek Douw shares how you can heal the energetic wounds that judgements make.

As I wrote in my last blog, when someone judges you, he shoots an arrow of judgemental energy into your aura, thus creating a wound that is filled with the toxic information contained in the judgement. So, as a result of this wound you suddenly find yourself having problems that need to be solved. In this blog, I will describe some ways you can heal these wounds. And as always, those are merely suggestions. It’s simply how I look at things, so please feel free to adapt them to your own style and liking.

Vulnerable to negativity

The first problem then, is that you have a hole in your aura which means it is more easily penetrated by other (negative) energies. This can be compared to your immune system being suppressed by an attack of flu that results in you being more susceptible to other viruses so you therefore get a throat infection as well.

In other words, when a judgement has hurt you on both the emotional and rational levels, it creates a weak spot so you’re more inclined to be sensitive to other critical comments that touch on the same areas.

So, what can you do about this?

But of course there is something you can do about it when you find out that the second judgment hurts you more than it should: realise what has happened. If you understand that you’re more vulnerable to criticism than usual because of the wound you recently received, you can say to yourself, ‘it’s not really all that bad, I just received one too many negative responses’. Just by simply being aware of what is happening, you will be able to see any other criticism for what it is – someone else’s opinion – and not take it too hard. It’s that simple! You don’t have to agree with it, nor do you have to defend yourself or do anything with the remarks at all. It’s only an opinion expressed and received in a negative way. So please, just keep it all in perspective.

Energetically, you can put your hands on the area of your body where you literally feel the hurt so that the warmth of your hands and their energy will help to relax and let go of the pain.

Wound in Several Aura Layers

The second problem is that the arrow crashed through several layers of your aura before it came to a standstill. This means that you could be affected on a lot of different levels and life themes at the same time and, depending on your state of being beforehand, this may or may not have a big effect on you.

When you feel injured, you evidently need to apply some First Aid for yourself. Taking a look at yourself and deciding where you stand in your life, is a good way to find the solution for this problem. Ask yourself, if you are happy with yourself and the choices you make, or are they based on the wrong principles. Do you go for short-term satisfaction rather than long-term fulfillment? The answers will help you find (or re-find) your Soul Path and stick to it.

So if anything, judgements can help you get better centred. They give you a chance to return to yourself and to your core beliefs and heart desires. That’s the blessing in disguise.

Irritated by toxic information

When the poisoned arrow hits your aura, you unwillingly receive information that doesn’t resonate with who you are and where you’re at: the third problem. The poison may sting and feel unpleasant because it just doesn’t fit. To deal with it, you have to transmute it. I already described one way of dealing with it, in my last blog: you can isolate the poison by asking yourself if this is really you. That way, the poison won’t have the chance to blend into your flesh so removing it becomes as easy as removing a splinter from your finger.

An alternative (and opposite) approach is to notice that we all live in a dual world and have all aspects in us. This also means that we already know how to handle them all. Therefore, if you decide to embrace the poison of the judgement that you received, you may want to say to yourself:

“Okay, I don’t like that I have been judged about this part of me but I do have some shadow sides with which this aligns so I know how to deal with them. I embrace who I am completely and it’s ok. Even when I’m not perfect by other people’s standards, I’m ok. So I will simply not resist and let it go.”

And miraculously, the toxic aspects of the information will disappear and become neutral again.

Then, you can take a shower of Light. Simply visualise yourself under a shower that spreads Light of the purest form and precisely the right colour. Please don’t think about what the colour should be, just picture yourself in the Light. This Light fills up all the holes in your aura, washes away what needs to be removed and helps your aura to recuperate.


The last problem you need to deal with is the fact that you suddenly have an unexpected hole in your aura which needs to be taken care of immediately. Time wise this might not seem very convenient but if you simply accept that, on this level, nothing happens without a reason you will be able to allow the healing to happen in its own time, fitting neatly into your Soul Path. So, there is really no need to worry about not having the time, if you follow this one simple instruction, you will find the time you need. Really.

Healing Others with Your Own Thoughts

So now you know what you can do for yourself when you are judged but what about those people that you sometimes judge? Since we all are human, we do make judgements about other people from time to time and, as we have seen, this can result in us hurting their aura.

As I described in the first blog in this series we can minimise the damage by allowing the thought, “Wow, that’s a judgement!” to follow whenever you notice that you have judged someone else. That will do. Simply remember that it only means you would have preferred or expected something else from them. It doesn’t say anything good or bad about you, nor does it say anything about the person you judged.

And when you realise that you sent someone a judgement by ‘telepathic text message/sms’ you can follow it with a thought like, ‘I am sorry to have burdened you’ and send some healing love from your heart to go with it. You don’t even have to say it out loud; the right words and your good intention will do the work.

Thoughts create, and energy follows your intention, so you can use them both in a positive way to help heal the people you accidentally wound.

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Reading more?

 Are you interested in how judgements can wound the different layers of the aura? Are you curious to find out what it means to heal yourself or others in the layers of your Soul? My new book 21 Layers of the Soul: Healing the Karmic Ties with Friends, Lovers, Family and Enemies describes them, and is now available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle, as well as on most major online retailers. Visit my website to pick up your copy, and to find out how you can get a free downloadable aura layer poster with proof of purchase.

Alternatively, the Dutch version is available here.

I also hope you’ll subscribe to this blog so we can continue to explore this journey together. 

Annemiek Douw – photography by Peter Nugteren www.prents-and-more.nl

ANNEMIEK DOUW, MSc is a management coach, energetic therapist, lightworker, medium, trainer and author. Coming from an unlikely background in engineering, Annemiek has always been interested in how people think and grow at a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. In her work within the government and business sectors, she began to see how illness comes into people’s lives, often making it unpredictable and seemingly out of control. This influenced her to start exploring bioenergetics and other alternative therapies, eventually leading her to complete a 3-year course at the Natural Medicine Academy South-Netherlands to become a paranormal therapist. In 1998 she dedicated herself to this work full-time. She later fell ill herself for an extended period of time, which allowed her to gain first-hand insight into the human experience of illness, and to learn how the soul is an internal compass that continuously guides. Probing more deeply into how this compass works, Annemiek discovered 21 layers of the soul that influence our ability to grow and to heal in our bodies, minds and relationships. This discovery became the foundation of her unique healing style, and today Annemiek helps clients heal at many levels, and teaches them how to read this compass for themselves. Wanting to share this unprecedented work with a wider audience, she published the Dutch language book De ziel in het licht van haar hogere auralagen in 2011, which now available in English under the title 21 Layers of the Soul: Healing the Karmic Ties with Friends, Lovers, Family and Enemies

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